Which Anniversary Present Goes
with Which Year?

Evolving together, challenging each other, and working through murky periods, all while managing to keep the spark flickering, is a real accomplishment—wedding and relationship anniversaries are a big effing deal. We love the old-fashioned (if hard-to-remember) rules around what type of present to give depending on how many years you’ve been together; here they all are as a guide, annotated with our favorite gifts to give and get.

1ST ANNIVERSARY

PAPER

These exquisite handcrafted paper flowers by artist Livia Cetti instantly and permanently joyify any space. Place them in the kitchen, in a bathroom, in a hallway, at your desk, or anywhere else (access to natural light is no constraint). The vibrant blossoms are an instant spirit boost—whether you choose roses, hollyhocks (at about three feet high, they’re almost architectural), or pink-petaled bleeding hearts.

1. 

   The Green Vase
   Floribunda Rose Plant
   goop, $565

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2. 

   The Green Vase
   Hollyhock Plant
   goop, $375

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3. 

   The Green Vase
   Bleeding Heart Stem
   goop, $90

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2ND ANNIVERSARY

FIBER

1. 

   Blacksaw
   Generation Reversible Throw
   goop, $398

   How this throw manages to be light for its size (it’s just a pound and a half) and so warm and soft all at once confounds us. Made of hypoallergenic baby alpaca wool that’s matting- and pilling-resistant, itch-free, and moisture-wicking with a stunning (reversible) block pattern, it’s a spectacular and cozy piece wherever you put it.

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2. 

   Aiayu
   Heather Wool Pillow
   goop, $325

   Gorgeously textural cream-colored wool on one side and organic linen on the other, this endlessly versatile rectangular throw pillow is ethically knit from the purest llama wool by Bolivian artisans. We love the lumbar shape and the cozy vibes.

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3. 

   Bearaby
   Cotton Napper Weighted Blanket, 15 lbs.
   goop, $249

   The Napper is naturally weighted with thick organic-cotton yarn and made to mimic the soothing effects of deep-touch pressure (like a hug), so it doesn’t need the glass or synthetic beads most weighted blankets are made with, which can make noise as you move around. Instead, this ultrasoft hand-knit blanket is totally silent. Bonus: It’s easily machine washable.

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3RD ANNIVERSARY

LEATHER

1. 

   Courant
   The Catch 2 Wireless Charger
   goop, $120

   Chic-looking and wildly practical, this dual wireless charging station is the perfect place to drop your iPhone, earbuds, etc. Made of butterscotch Italian leather, it’s gorgeous on a nightstand, in a home office, or on the kitchen countertop.

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2. 

   Coco de Mer
   Leather Round Paddle
   goop, $125

   Make your third anniversary an especially fun one with this wide paddle for delicate strokes and satisfying spanks. It has smooth leather on one side—to glide or smack along your skin—and soft suede on the other for more muffled sensations.

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4TH ANNIVERSARY

FLOWERS

1. 

   The Garden Journey
   The Garden Journey Deck
   goop, $95

   This gorgeous new tarot deck (there are 22 cards representing the archetypes of the major arcana) is decorated with stunning botanical illustrations—flowers, flowers, and more flowers. Reading the cards is easier than you think, but there’s a beautiful guidebook with instructions if you find you need them. It all comes in an exquisite reusable fabric-lined box with silk ribbons to hold the cards and book in place.

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2. 

   The Floral Society
   Edible Flower Seed Kit
   goop, $15

   Edible flowers have to be the most romantic food of all time, and growing these GMO-free edible-flower seeds (marigold, bachelor’s button, viola, and calendula) is both simple and incredibly rewarding. They make a spectacular garnish—in salads, in cocktails, in ice cubes, or on top of cakes—and they look fantastic wherever you plant them.

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3. 

   Marloe Marloe
   Stevie Vase
   goop, $340

   A tall, minimalist contrast between organic curves and sharp corners, this polished vase is handmade in metallic gunmetal or a textured cream color. It instantly chic-ifies any room you put it in, and it works beautifully with or without flowers.

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5TH ANNIVERSARY

WOOD

1. 

   Alexis Steelwood
   Charcuterie Board
   goop, $250

   This enormous octagonal serving board is handmade of reclaimed wood, and while it’s brilliant in the kitchen for slicing and chopping, it’s also stunning for serving just about anything, from crudités or charcuterie to cocktails.

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2. 

   U-Turn Audio
   Orbit Special Turntable with Built-In Preamp
   goop, $569

   As good-looking as it gets, this turntable is made of sustainably sourced walnut with a clear acrylic plate. The sound is beyond fantastic—there’s a built-in preamp—and the look is a perfect balance of old-school and modern.

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6TH ANNIVERSARY

CANDY

1. 

   Roman and Williams Guild
   Go Takagi Serving Stand
   goop, $80

   The chicest possible way to present candy, pastries, fruit, or, for an anniversary, perhaps some rainbow Ladurée macarons, this serving stand from artist and ceramist Go Takagi—it’s finished with a slightly speckled rustic white glaze that’s just stunning—was created using a centuries-old Korean ceramics technique.

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7TH ANNIVERSARY

COPPER

1. 

   Sir Madam
   Copper Franconia Kettle
   goop, $215

   This pure copper kettle looks stunning wherever you put it: It’s generous (10½ inches tall by 7½ inches wide) and round-bodied, with a beautifully formed spout and bowed handle. It catches the light for a warm glow that suits any kitchen, from modernist to traditionalist.

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2. 

   The Floral Society
   Copper Watering Can
   goop, $128

   Inspired by vintage watering cans, this long-spouted design reaches hard-to-get-to spots with ease. The copper oxidizes beautifully over time, and the curved handle feels smooth and solid in your hand. It’s big enough (it holds 2.25 liters) that you can water many plants before you need to refill.

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3. 

   Serax
   Copper Chemistry Glass
   goop, $22

   This minimalist water glass is made with a wide copper band that’s stunning in its simplicity. We like it best alongside the matching carafe—pure and beautiful.

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8TH ANNIVERSARY

BRONZE

You could spring for a Carl Andre or perhaps a Richard Serra or, as we have here, substitute a little brass.

1. 

   Tala
   Oak Knuckle Table Lamp
   goop, $165

   No shade, just wild, blonde-oak-and-brass chicness that fits right in on any table, nightstand, or bookshelf with style and ease. The spherical bulb casts the warmest glow, and a dimmer on the braided cord helps you set the mood perfectly, whatever the occasion.

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2. 

   Sir Madam
   Modernist Desk Tape Dispenser
   goop, $85

   Sleeker than sleek, this brass-plated tape dispenser merges brilliant modernist form with pure function. It makes any desktop a happier place but truly looks great anywhere you put it.

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9TH ANNIVERSARY

POTTERY

1. 

   Pala Ceramics
   Carafe & Pour Over Coffee Set
   goop, $120

   With an arty blue almost-gingham on the outside and a contrasting chocolate-brown glaze on the inside, this ceramic pour-over set is hand-thrown and glazed at pottery artist Chinzalée Sonami’s Oakland studio. Each piece varies slightly, of course, but the carafe is about five inches high; the pour-over cone is made for a size-two filter and delivers two or three cups at a time.

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10TH ANNIVERSARY

ALUMINUM

1. 

   Aviteur
   Aviteur Carry-On
   goop, $8,340

   Handcrafted in Italy by master artisans, with carved Lucite handles, aviation-grade aluminum wheel casters, and incredibly quiet wheels (they actually absorb sound), this case has been sleekly designed and engineered to absolute perfection. The body is wrapped in fine calfskin leather in a gorgeous, old-school caned weave, and the roomy interior is lined with suede-like Alcantara (it’s got two smaller compartments within, too). Each case is a limited edition and comes engraved with its own identifying number.

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11TH ANNIVERSARY

STEEL

1. 

   Brigade Kitchen
   Stainless Steel Cookware 4-Piece Set
   goop, $260

   This four-piece stainless steel cookware set from Brigade Kitchen—complete with a skillet, saucepan, sauté pan, and santoku knife—suits both the novice cook and seasoned chef. Made of five-ply steel, the pans look fantastic in any style kitchen (and work just as well on the grill as they do in the oven or on the stove).

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2. 

   Smithey Ironware Co.
   Carbon Steel Farmhouse Skillet
   goop, $275

   This hand-forged carbon steel skillet—complete with a chic hammered handle—is inspired by artisanal American designs of the 1700s and 1800s. It’s surprisingly lightweight but incredibly durable, and it’s gorgeous enough to be left out on display.

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12TH ANNIVERSARY

SILK

1. 

   Coco & Wolf
   Osterly Silk Pillowcase
   goop, $97

   Coco & Wolf’s luxurious satin pillowcases are the dreamiest, softest cocoons to sink into at night. We especially love this iteration, with garden-inspired flora set against a soothing pink background, evoking the charm and elegance of the English countryside.

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13TH ANNIVERSARY

LACE

1. 

   Kiki de Montparnasse
   Orchid Robe
   goop, $856

   Some robes are meant for prolonged relaxation. This is not one of them: Its silk chiffon bodice with lace trim, plus a matching sash, is meant to be removed—slowly, erotically—to reveal what lies underneath.

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14TH ANNIVERSARY

IVORY

We’re happily interpreting this to mean ivory-colored (hallelujah for the US ban on elephant ivory); another
direction might be a safari to go see elephants, or a donation to help save them.

1. 

   Business & Pleasure Co.
   Hammock
   goop, $299

   What’s more romantic than a hammock for two? Business & Pleasure Co. took the same premium canvas used for its umbrellas and made hammocks with it. The designers added plush interior padding and quilting, and it’s close to three and a half feet wide (by just over seven feet long), so there’s room for two to cocoon. We love the teakwood framing and that signature cotton fringe. It even comes with a carry case for storage in between uses.

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2. 

   Atelier Saucier
   Ivory Twill Napkins, Set of 4
   goop, $66

   These eco-friendly (they’re made of reclaimed fabric), artisanally crafted napkins effortlessly complement any tablescape. Elegant ivory pairs with cream lining for a look that never goes out of style.

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15TH ANNIVERSARY

CRYSTAL

1. 

   Richard Brendon
   Diamond Shot Glasses, set of 2
   goop, $173

   Richard Brendon’s hand-cut crystal shot glasses are made with a level of detail and precision that puts them in a category of their own. Brendon makes priceless heirlooms to be handed down for generations—and to make any shot go down (significantly) easier.

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2. 

   Richard Brendon
   Diamond Single Old Fashioned
   goop, $135

   A crystal old-fashioned glass is about as classic as it gets, and Richard Brendon’s hand-cut diamond-detailed one is the most exquisite version we’ve seen. It easily elevates the simplest cocktail beyond your wildest dreams, and does the same for everything from lemonade to a Sazerac.

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16TH ANNIVERSARY

WAX

1. 

   Neom Organics
   Perfect Night’s Sleep Intensive Skin Treatment Candle
   goop, $46

   The founder of Neom is trained in aromatherapy—as evidenced by this especially calming herb-scented candle. The surprise is that you can pour the melted wax over your skin (or a friend’s)—it has a low melting point, so it’s always perfectly warm and never too hot, and it’s composed of nourishing oils like almond and jojoba. Relaxation indeed.

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2. 

   August & Piers
   Darling Candle
   goop, $86

   Soak up the positive energy emitted from this all-natural hand-poured candle. It’s crafted with an unbleached cotton wick and free from paraffin. English brothers August and Piers Campbell combine woodsy notes with floral undertones—and a long burn time—to create the ideal atmosphere for a luxurious night in.

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3. 

   The Maker
   Spiritus Candle
   goop, $80

   This gorgeous candle reflects the signature scent of the Maker, the romantic hotel in Hudson, New York. Smoky, earthy notes of palo santo, frankincense, and cannabis combine with grounding spices in the most stirring, sophisticated way. (Scent aficionados, note: The founders created the brand Fresh.) The chic, heavy ribbed-glass container captures the light in the prettiest way, too.

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17TH ANNIVERSARY

FURNITURE

1. 

   Business & Pleasure Co.
   The Tommy Chair
   goop, $299

   A hardwood frame and canvas seat make this foldable, easy-to-carry beach chair the simplest—and most comfortable—option for instant, portable relaxation, whether you’re setting up at the beach, the pool, a cabin, or even a soccer game.

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18TH ANNIVERSARY

PORCELAIN

1. 

   La DoubleJ
   Dinner Plates, Set of 2
   goop, $155

   This stunning set of porcelain plates from La DoubleJ—one is sized just right for salad (or dessert) and the other, for the main course—is hand-painted and trimmed in gold. The uplifting, color-happy prints are based on vintage Italian patterns dating back to 1905.

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2. 

   La DoubleJ
   Dessert Plate, Set of 6
   goop, $340

   Each one of these dishwasher-safe dessert plates is joyfully unique, but lively geometric patterns and complementary colors (think guava, blues, greens, and yellows) pull the versatile set together, adding vibrancy to whatever you serve—salads, tapas, appetizers, cheese…

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19TH ANNIVERSARY

BRONZE (again)

Bronze features twice for inexplicable reasons; if you haven’t saved up for
the Serra (see above), go with another brass item.

1. 

   Sir Madam
   Brass Keychains – Work + Home
   goop, $17

   These brass keychains from the beloved Sir Madam are engraved with “Work” and “Home” to (very elegantly) help discern which key is which.

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20TH ANNIVERSARY

CHINA

1. 

   Richard Brendon
   Georgian Lilies Reflect Teacup and Saucer Set
   goop, $285

   This handmade bone china teacup and saucer are crafted in Stoke-on-Trent, a British city renowned for its unparalleled ceramics. Whimsical butterflies and caterpillars, rendered in elegant blue and gold, make a time-tested tradition from the 1700s suddenly, chicly modern.

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25TH ANNIVERSARY

SILVER

1. 

   goop x Social Studies
   Vintage Flatware Set, 4 pcs
   goop, $48

   Vintage-inspired (note the classic curved shapes) and crafted in Italy from stainless steel, this set is a collaboration between goop and our favorite entertaining mavens, Social Studies. We adore the beautiful brushed matte finish and how incredibly versatile the pieces are—they work with any tabletop.

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30TH ANNIVERSARY

PEARL

1. 

   Young Frankk
   Riles Baroque Pearl Earrings
   goop, $192

   These dangling freshwater pearls—they’re affixed to 24-karat-gold-plated brass studs—are somehow both elegant enough for cocktail parties and (anniversary) dinners out and comfortable enough to wear casually all day.

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35TH ANNIVERSARY

CORAL

You could donate to help save the world’s coral, take the romantic trip of a lifetime to see some untouched coral reefs, or give any one of these foolproof, coral-accented items.

1. 

   Edie Parker
   Checkers in Rose Quartz
   goop, $1,895

   We never knew playing checkers could be such an aesthetic exercise until we discovered this hand-poured acrylic set, colored an alluring rose quartz. It’s ingenious (each end has ample storage space for the pieces) and good-looking—the perfect piece for your coffee table or bookshelf.

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2. 

   Our Place
   Always Pan
   goop, $145

   This pan truly does it all—sauté, boil, steam (nesting basket included)—and it comes in the best array of colors. The nontoxic nonstick coating makes cooking and cleaning a breeze. It’s quickly become our forever-favorite piece.

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3. 

   R+D.LAB
   CITTA Jacquard Blanket
   goop, $545

   It might be an actual functioning blanket, but it also qualifies as a work of art, fit to be hung on a wall. But with its handwoven lambswool-and-cashmere blend, Italian craftsmanship, and generous size (about 55 by 70 inches), it’s infinitely more appealing for cuddling.

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40TH ANNIVERSARY

RUBY

1. 

   Shay Jewelry
   18-Karat Ruby Heart Necklace
   goop, $3,740

   Hanging on an 18-karat gold chain adorned with a white diamond accent, this showstopping ruby pendant is cut in the timeless shape of a heart.

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45TH ANNIVERSARY

SAPPHIRE

1. 

   Anita Ko
   18K Gold Chain Necklace with Sapphire
   goop, $10,600

   This edgy yet elegant piece from Anita Ko—one of goop’s favorite designers—combines an 18-karat gold chain with a teardrop sapphire pendant. You’ll wear it everywhere.

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50TH ANNIVERSARY

GOLD

1. 

   G. Label
   Deven Link Necklace
   goop, $2,500

   This 14-karat gold chain necklace is the ultimate balance between delicate and bold—perfect on its own and amazing stacked and layered. Its hand-assembled links and seamless clasp give it a chunky coolness, and it’s as great with a T-shirt as it is with a ball gown.

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55TH ANNIVERSARY

EMERALD

1. 

   Azlee
   Petite Emerald Staircase Necklace
   goop, $2,790

   Azlee’s recycled 18-karat gold chain holds an intricate, delicate pendant: an emerald encased in stacked octagons—so pretty.

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60TH ANNIVERSARY

DIAMOND

1. 

   Richard Brendon
   Diamond Decanter
   goop, $510

   If ever there were a decadent decanter, Richard Brendon’s crystal one is the ultimate. With fantastic diamond details, it elevates any drink (not to mention any table) and will last for generations.

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2. 

   Ariel Gordon
   Diamond Bezel Tennis Bracelet
   goop, $3,695

   This 14-karat gold bracelet that’s studded, impressively, with 88 diamonds is an elevated iteration of a classic, perfect for layering and stunning on its own.

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